We all know being sexy is a state of mind, but how to achieve this mental state is the challenge we all face from time to time. Perhaps you were born sexy and your sex appeal oozes from your every pore. But unfortunately for the majority of us, this is simply not the case. Feeling sexy is being sexy - that's a fact. It's not as hard as you may think. You don't necessarily need to be aesthetically beautiful to possess that smouldering raw sex appeal. A pair of heels and a short skirt can make all the difference, but feeling sexy is the most basic step into being able to attract and seduce the opposite sex. Let's not overlook the fact that sex appeal can be very subjective. Most men know what sexy is, when they see it.

Now here's the greatest challenge; how to be sexy and be totally seductive and attractive at the same time? Well, here are the top five techniques to make it all happen. Couple it with the right approach and attitude, and you're good to go!

Here's how...

• Feel good about yourself – Love yourself...It's easy to say, but not so easy to do. At the very least, don't ever run yourself down. Appreciate your beauty and the gifts that you bring into this world. You're worth more than you know. No matter who you are - you matter. Start to build up your self-confidence. We all know that self-confidence is sexy - Self confidence comes with competence.

• Learn to express your confidence – Fake it until you make it! Do something that makes you feel good. Go to the gym, read that book, change your diet. Cut out all the things that make your life harder and choose your friends carefully. If you're not appreciated in your relationship, it's time to move on. This is your story...write it well and edit often.

• Learn how to flirt – Flirting is a powerful nonverbal form of communication. Sending out signals that you're interested in the person in front of you can be liberating and self affirming. Your body is your weapon. Use it well and men will fall at your feet. Whether you have voluptuous curves or tiny titties, it's how you use them that makes the difference. Your body language can be your best friend when you learn what works for you. Just use what you have to your advantage, the rest will follow.

• Talk dirty – Men often love women that can articulate their sexual feelings without hesitation or embarrassment. Whether it's romantic nothings whispered in his ear, or dirty obscenities, sex it up like a slut, don't be shy, it will turn you both on, and into teenage lovers.

• Love the skin you're in – You can make your hair straighter, longer and lighter. You can spend all your free time in the gym and starve yourself to get that perfect six pack. You can tan your skin and bleach your teeth. But be careful not to hide behind this persona that you've created - your conscience will betray you! Be true to yourself - know yourself, be who you are. Be comfortable in the skin you're in - your sexiness will naturally shine through.